old habits die hard

thisoldapt:

I’ve though multiple times that I wish a shower curtain was a piece of wall art instead. Problem solved! This shower curtain-to-wall art DIY from 6th Street Design School is super smart. I’m going to put my canvas-stretching skills to use and try one to fill the gaping blank space on my living room wall. -EL
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thisoldapt:

I’ve though multiple times that I wish a shower curtain was a piece of wall art instead. Problem solved! This shower curtain-to-wall art DIY from 6th Street Design School is super smart. I’m going to put my canvas-stretching skills to use and try one to fill the gaping blank space on my living room wall. -EL

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via thisoldapt / 3 days ago / 142 notes /

tashabilities:

hylianears:

micdotcom:

Canadian music festival takes huge step against Native appropriation

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From their announcement:

For various reasons, Bass Coast Festival is banning feathered war bonnets, or anything resembling them, onsite. Our security team will be enforcing this policy.

We understand why people are attracted to war bonnets. They have a magnificent aesthetic. But their spiritual, cultural and aesthetic significance cannot be separated.

Bass Coast Festival takes place on indigenous land and we respect the dignity of aboriginal people. We have consulted with aboriginal people in British Columbia on this issue and we feel our policy aligns with their views and wishes regarding the subject. Their opinion is what matters to us.

Niiiiiiice

Awesome!

via beautifulonfire / 3 days ago / 49,150 notes /

(Source: softwaring)

via misandry-mermaid / 3 days ago / 4,513 notes /
didyourmomjustcallmeababydyke:

Oh man I love it


Brill.

didyourmomjustcallmeababydyke:

Oh man I love it

Brill.

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via recycledmovements / 4 days ago / 53,948 notes /

A thought experiment: Imagine how people might react if Taylor Swift released an album made up entirely of songs about wishing she could get back together with one of her exes.

We’d hear things like: “She can’t let go. She’s clingy. She’s irrational. She’s crazy.” Men would have a field day comparing her to their own “crazy” exes.

Yet when Robin Thicke released “Paula” – a plea for reconciliation with his ex-wife Paula Patton disguised as an LP — he was called incoherent, obsessed, heartfelt and, in particular, creepy.

But you didn’t hear men calling him “crazy” — even though he used it as the title of one of tracks.

No, “crazy” is typically held in reserve for women’s behavior. Men might be obsessed, driven, confused or upset. But we don’t get called “crazy” — at least not the way men reflexively label women as such.

“Crazy” is one of the five deadly words guys use to shame women into compliance. The others: Fat. Ugly. Slutty. Bitchy. They sum up the supposedly worst things a woman can be.

WHAT WE REALLY MEAN BY “CRAZY” IS: “SHE WAS UPSET, AND I DIDN’T WANT HER TO BE.”

“Crazy” is such a convenient word for men, perpetuating our sense of superiority. Men are logical; women are emotional. Emotion is the antithesis of logic. When women are too emotional, we say they are being irrational. Crazy. Wrong.

Women hear it all the time from men. “You’re overreacting,” we tell them. “Don’t worry about it so much, you’re over-thinking it.” “Don’t be so sensitive.” “Don’t be crazy.” It’s a form of gaslighting — telling women that their feelings are just wrong, that they don’t have the right to feel the way that they do. Minimizing somebody else’s feelings is a way of controlling them. If they no longer trust their own feelings and instincts, they come to rely on someone else to tell them how they’re supposed to feel.

Small wonder that abusers love to use this c-word. It’s a way of delegitimizing a woman’s authority over her own life.

Most men (#notallmen, #irony) aren’t abusers, but far too many of us reflexively call women crazy without thinking about it. We talk about how “crazy girl sex” is the best sex while we also warn men “don’t stick it in the crazy.” How I Met Your Mother warned us to watch out for “the crazy eyes” and how to process women on the “Crazy/Hot” scale. When we talk about why we broke up with our exes, we say, “She got crazy,” and our guy friends nod sagely, as if that explains everything.


Except what we’re really saying is: “She was upset, and I didn’t want her to be.”

Many men are socialized to be disconnected from our emotions — the only manly feelings we’re supposed to show are stoic silence or anger. We’re taught that to be emotional is to be feminine. As a result, we barely have a handle on our own emotions — meaning that we’re especially ill-equipped at dealing with someone else’s.

That’s where “crazy” comes in. It’s the all-purpose argument ender. Your girlfriend is upset that you didn’t call when you were going to be late? She’s being irrational. She wants you to spend time with her instead of out with the guys again? She’s being clingy. Your wife doesn’t like the long hours you’re spending with your attractive co-worker? She’s being oversensitive.

As soon as the “crazy” card is in play, women are put on the defensive. It derails the discussion from what she’s saying to how she’s saying it. We insist that someone can’t be emotional and rational at the same time, so she has to prove that she’s not being irrational. Anything she says to the contrary can just be used as evidence against her.

More often than not, I suspect, most men don’t realize what we’re saying when we call a woman crazy. Not only does it stigmatize people who have legitimate mental health issues, but it tells women that they don’t understand their own emotions, that their very real concerns and issues are secondary to men’s comfort. And it absolves men from having to take responsibility for how we make others feel.

In the professional world, we’ve had debates over labels like “bossy” and “brusque,” so often used to describe women, not men. In our interpersonal relationships and conversations, “crazy” is the adjective that needs to go.


- Men really need to stop calling women crazy - Harris O’Malley (via hello-lilianab)

I used to be called crazy by a couple of different people I’ve dated and I would get so incredibly upset. I already felt like there was something not quite right in my heart and to have someone constantly tell me I was overreacting and being insane made me question myself more. I would calmly tell my last partner not to call me insane when he would throw it at me as an insult and he would continue to use it to try and keep me down. It made me question the validity of my feelings and I would often describe situations to my friends and ask if I was overreacting. It’s awful that I was made to feel like everything I thought and felt was just not normal. I am still very aware of the impact this has had on me and I often ask others if I’ve reacted appropriately to things now.

(Source: Washington Post)

via recycledmovements / 4 days ago / 9,886 notes /

chromatic-moon:

foxmouth:

Landscapes, 2014 | by Anthony Samaniego

Oh my. I would love to buy one of these prints. They are breathtaking.

via beautifulonfire / 4 days ago / 171,243 notes /

"I would look at my younger self and just say don’t doubt yourself too much, and don’t let the one terrible thing you hear negate the hundred great things that you’ve heard. You matter because you exist.”

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via hellogiggles / 6 days ago / 6,905 notes /
clementinevonradics:

tetrisplayer:

-Clementine von Radics (For My Mother When She Doesn’t Feel Beautiful)
I painted words on a canvas.

From As Often as Miracles, available here through Where Are You Press!

clementinevonradics:

tetrisplayer:

-Clementine von Radics
(For My Mother When She Doesn’t Feel Beautiful)

I painted words on a canvas.

From As Often as Miracles, available here through Where Are You Press!

via clementinevonradics / 6 days ago / 626 notes /
via wildmire / 1 week ago / 20,340 notes /

giraffepoliceforce:

"You can’t just change the race of cultural icons like Captain America! It’s an important part of their identity and message!"

Jesus: Ah yes.

Jesus: Can’t imagine who would do that.

Jesus: What a shame.

via misandry-mermaid / 1 week ago / 72,358 notes /
 
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